Hey, Nick and other forum members!
Nick, you wrote wonderful article about expectations and it made me realize what's wrong with my relationship with my girl. At the beginning of our relationship, I tried to be myself and not be her marionette. But once when she called me by phone, I said that I can't talk to her because I'm with my friend. That's when it started. She got mad and won't talk with me for a week. From then on somwthing similar was repeated several times and I apologised both times. From then on I always tried to please her.
One month ago she went to pupillage for 5 months in another country (several thousand kilometers away) and we're talking on skype just once a week. Last week she wrote me first for the first time she was there and we talked on skype. She said, that next weekend (now, this weekend) she will have 4 free days and she's inviting me to Luxembourg (because she said earlier that I have to ask her if she's not busy if I want to come to her). I said, that I just started my new job, I have several new clients and will have to work next weekend. Her mood left not very good. She said that she's free next weekend and she doesn't know, when's the next time she could be free (but she doesn't realy do anything on weekends because the city is empty and she has no friends). It sounded like she's manipulating me. I didn't come, of course, because I'm really busy. I wrote her yesterday, but she just said that she's fine and web conncetion is bad. I asked her what's wrong, she just wrote bad connection, bye. I congratulated her today with Easter but she didn't bother to write me back. She just doesn't respond to my messages.
Now, I understand that I set wrong expectations, but can I fix this? Is it too late for me? I know that maybe she will cool down after a week, but she costs me lots of nerves, but at the same time I love her so much.