Earlier this year, I decided to rearrange my priorities in life. Now entering the last of my college years, I have to make academics and a career my top priority. The result was the following re-ranking of my long term goal categories:
- Academia and Career Building (Paramount)
- Continuing/Improving my Self-acceptance
- Personal Fitness and a Better Diet
- Social Life (Can Wait)
The rationale behind this is that after I advance in the first three, the last one should naturally follow. Unfortunately, I became too engrossed in these three and have rarely gone out over the past few months. I began to think that the final item on my list wasn’t necessary and began to again withdraw from being social (old habits die hard). It didn’t help that my previous and current co-workers would often talk about how their relationships have gone sour: Person A is still reeling from her divorce, person B had an abusive ex, and person C’s girlfriend is showing signs of cheating on him. The best and worst thing about me is that I’m the quiet one most people talk to and vent around, so I do end up with quite a bit to think about.
Anyways, the bad stories from my various co-workers and my extreme introversion made me feel discouraged from putting myself out there. It was around that time that I began exploring commentaries and videos from the MGTOW community. I spent several weeks giving serious consideration to their lifestyle: the solitude and individuality they preached appealed to me. What stopped me from going “full MGTOW” was a nagging feeling that I was being too pessimistic about women and about myself. As an agnostic, it is hard for me to have faith in something; however, I still believe that there are good women in this world (the MGTOW movement sees >99% of females as manipulative and greedy).
After all this thought I have decided NOT to go MGTOW. There are certainly gold diggers and psychos out there, but there is no way that all (or even most) women are like that. At the moment, getting a girlfriend is at the bottom of my priority list, but to cut myself off from women is a bad idea.
Anyway, those are my two cents on the experience. What do you guys think?