I totally understand.
When I was a young man I suffered terrible from anxieties. Especially going out in public.
If I walked into a mall I could not spend more then 15 minutes inside and my underarms and shirt
would be Soaked in sweat. God I hated it. The more I sweated the more nervous I got, the more I sweated. It was a never ending cycle.
I went to a shrink once and he told me for me to get over it I had to Accept it.
I told him he was Full of shit and I would fight it till the day I die and I never went back.
You know what, He was RIGHT.
Think of it this way. being anxious is like being in a fast moving river. you fight and you fight and you fight BUT you cant get out. The more you fight the more energy you expend and the more anxious you get and the more you worry. It's a vicious cycle.
If you say to yourself, ok I'm anxious, I cant do anything about it, I'm just going to Accept the fact that I am nervous right now and I am going to let this fast flowing river carry me downstream because I cant do anything else anyway. You will find that Slowly, ever so slowly the nervousness will leave you. Just Accept it and let it flow away from your body.
It will be hard to do at first but it was the One thing, The Only thing the ever cured me.
Do I still have anxieties, Yep. But not like I used to. I also think as you get older this will help
you too. I am nothing like I was in my teens and 20's.
I don't know what a Ginger is or what you mean But I do understand about the mean face.
I have a face that looks like I'm pissed off all the time when I am really not. I cant count the number of times people have said sorry to me when they did nothing wrong. I wish I didn't but it is what it is. On the plus side nobody fucks with me because I look like a mean motherfucker.
Good Luck to you....