I am seeking advice in my intimate relationship with my girldfriend.
I am 28 year old and my girlfriend is 25. we have been together for a year and a half now.
We always have fights when it comes to her family. If her cousins (Uncles for example, Also she doesn't like them) invite her for lunch or dinner, she doesn't take me with her.
When I ask why, she says that they might ask you a lot of questions and I don't want them to talk to you much and she also indicated that a lot of
talk might spread in her family about us. (Her family are the kind of mentality where she has to be my fiance in order for us to go out) she's not like them though,
we live together and she loves it.
Her parents live overseas, she even has a hard time telling her mom that she is coming to my place. she says her mom will question her why and will start worrying and thinking that she's doing something wrong.
Last time we were making breakfast together and her mom called her, she went to the room and spoke to her, I ended up doing breakfast by myself and even ate by myself untill she was done with the phone call
then she apologized. I'm not saying I don't want her to talk to her mom, I just got mad because we were doing a fun activity together if I was her I would wait until we were dont and then call mom back or answered her
to see if there is something urgent then get off the phone quickly.
However, I have introduced her to my family and they like each other. my family is cool with her and she's cool with them. I have no shame in introducing her to other family members when it happens because
she's my girlfriend and if they say something or talk started running about us in my family i don't really care about what people say. TO me it's better to introduce her and not make her feel awkward or not wanted rather
than not having a person or two in my family talk nonsense about us (in my family they won't talk nonsense but i'm just giving an example of how i think)
Anyway, all this hiding awkward actions from her towards me when it comes to family is hurting me and feeling if resentment towards her are growing each day. I feel that she can't
stand up for us if case something happens. To me for example if parents said why is she going to my place for lunch, she should tell them yeah so what, it's just lunch what's wrong with that. Like she is even afraid
to confront them with this just in case they said something.
I've spoken to her multiple times but honestly I feel that this fear of hers will never go away. She loves me so much and I know that. But this fear of hers is giving me a ton of negative feeling and emotions.
MY question is, as a man and a leader in the relationship. Am I being too sensitive with that issue? Should I me more understanding and respect her limitation and somehow stop it from hurting me? Or this means that
her fear is greater than her love to me and I should be super careful and maybe end this relationship and end those negative emotions?