Problem: I need help developing a way to get good banter. So that when I have a conversation with a woman, the conversation is fun, teasing and flows naturally.
Okay, so I've been away from this community for a while since I was working like crazy around the world (being a consultant. Not as exciting as it sounds. Don't ever become one.) I also just got out of a horrible relationship, and while I am working with my amazing councilor ( Thank you Mr.N), i figured out that my conversations with my ex-gf had turned from fun, open and teasing to just basically being a report, negotiating for sex and dull questions/comments. And that is problem a big reason why she left me, because I was putting pressure on her by making it seem like a another boring office small talk. Attractions plays a big role if you want to make a relationship work.
I really need some help developing a way to change my way of talking so that my banter with women is natural, rather than just full of one liners, that I run out of after the first date. I really need to make this a permanent change since I want to make my life more positive.
I've already started to change my life to a positive, by handing in my two-weeks notice from a career that makes feel miserable/depressed.
Thank you all in advance for all the help.