Hey, I'm back to throw more stuff into the debate. I came across this article which is on point with what I am saying.
The study that is behind the article was done at The University of Texas, Austin by Lucy Hunt. I looked up her Linked-In profile and she is a researcher studying, among other things, initial attraction.
I bring this up because I am a big advocate aiming for being friends with women.
First, you reduce the pressure on yourself because the threshold for not being rejected is much lower. If approach a woman with "I want to date her" in my head I think I have jumped the gun. It's best to approach a woman with the idea "She is interesting, I want to get to know her." When I have the former mindset I am easily thrown off balance if she says anything that makes me feel unaccepted to date her. If I take the latter mindset I am more relaxed and this comes across as confidence.
Second, if I approach with the dating mindset, and I am rejected early on, it may only be my approach that is being rejected, not me. How well can a woman know me in 10 - 20 minutes? If I take the view that I am trying to make a new friend then I are more likely to succeed as "dating" is a much more exclusive position that "friend."
Yes, it is true that if my goal is to find a date in the shortest time then I want to approach women and make my intentions known early and in a open, direct and honest way. And if she is not interested, quickly move on to talk to another.
I also can't emphasize enough that wasting time trying to get a girl to see me in a romantic way, when she she sees me phonically is wrong.
I believe every guy can increase the chances that women in general will find them sexually attractive. Some of those things are obvious, like taking care of yourself, go to the gym, good grooming, dress well, etc. But there are a lot of other things that I have learned by keeping the women who didn't want to date me as close friends. The perspective that they have taught me reading how women view men is invaluable. And who knows, after you have been going to the gym for a while, one of your cute female "friends" many change their mind, as women often do, and make a move on you.