Hey 😃 I have just started dating a really cute girl. She's totally beautiful ! We've been dating for nearly two weeks and have been spending a lot of time chatting on FaceTime. I know she is attracted to me, but I'm really struggling with all the 'dating rules' (still trying to find my feet after an 18 year relationship break up) & apparently breaking every single one of them (excessive texting, fishing for complements, comparing myself to her past dates, being way to submissive & offering way too much of myself ! 😱.... I could go on ! But it is basically every single no no going !) my obvious predicament is that I am afraid I am going to to turn her off by my apparent neediness ! I constantly think to myself 'just be cool, get on with your busy life, stop dropping my plans to make myself constantly available to her ! I know I am a little insecure right now ! I also know she is two. We have already shared 'our rather harrowing life experiences' and we clearly have a lot to gain from each other ! But I hate feeling desperate to be with her & hate reading all the documents that point out all the stupid things I am doing wrong! that will only inevitably push her away ! I am panicking a little as tbh I think I'm quite close to it 😔 she got a little irritated at me when I walked her to her car last night for dithering and trying to make future plans (I know I shouldn't have done it ! But I did & now totally regret being dominated by my desperation !)
How can I turn it around ? Taking into account how much I might have already screwed up ! Literally found myself sending this text this morning:
'Morning 😃 If you get bored tonight, feel free to swing by mine ? I'll make sure my kids are in bed by 8pm. I'm confined to quarters anyway X'
(Embarrassed & feel like a dick right now [probably overthinking it to])
Taking into account we just spent the last 2 evenings together at my house, that went really well, until I annoyed her with my planning barrage, that said though we have arranged to meet next Wednesday for our next date. I know it's still salvageable, but I need to know how to get my cool back & stop being the chaser ! I have it in me . But have forgotten how to use it ?????
Any advice welcome & thank you for your time 😊