Ok so my date with Kristen went pretty well. She's actually Indian, which I guess it technically still Asian.
Anyway, I had planned on showing her how to ride a ripstick, which is a skateboard with only two wheels. It is a super fun date idea. that I've done in the past. A few days ago I added her on Facebook, so she could facebook stalk me and get an idea for the kind of person I was. She didn't add me back, but at least I gave her an opportunity to know more about me.
Bummer. I sent her a text message around 4pm.
Hey Kristen! Are you getting ready for some skateboarding action?
I just wanted to make sure that she still wanted to go on the date.
Then it started to rain, so I couldn't really show her how to ride a ripstick.
So I texted her at 5pm,
Hey Kristen, it's too wet to ripstick, but I have a backup plan if you're still interested.
I didn't hear back from her until 5:20pm. Come on girl. Sort out your priorities.
Yeah. I just woke up from a nap. What's your backup plan?
Can you meet me in the union in say 20 minutes? It's a mystery.
Mystery huh? Sure. See you there.
So the union is a rather large public area where students tend to hang out. I got there about 5:30pm and immediately saw my problem. The place was packed with students. Not exactly the perfect place for a romantic date.
Well I really don't know her that well. I probably don't want to invite her where she is completely alone with me. That would be a little scary.
I looked around for a bit, and found a table tucked away in a side corridor in a side hallway. The closest people would be 20-30 feet away, but it was a bit more private.
So your first take will be to find me. I'm not exactly hiding, but I'm not in plain sight either. There is a Chase atm by me...
Ok. I'm still about 5 minutes out, because of the rain. But I'm on my way.
About 10 minutes later I send,
I'm in the basement if that helps.
That does actually.
Another 5 minutes go by. At this point I'm starting to worry a little bit. I don't want her spending an hour trying to find me. 10 minutes at the most. So I give her a call.
Right as I do, she walks by me and answers the phone.
Where are you?
You just walked by me.
She walked by me again.
Turn around and walk the other way.
She walks by me and stops right in front of me, with her back to me.
You're really close.
She walks a little further away.
Take a left right now.
Yeah she found me!
She looked pretty great. Her hair was a little frazzled, like she had just taken a nap, but she was wearing a really pretty dress, golden hoop earings, lipstick, and basic makeup.
I gave her a hug and had her sit across from me.
We drew pictures of each other, turned those drawings into origami boats, etc. It was pretty cool. But I was a little nervous. I mumbled a little, and she had to keep asking me to repeat myself. I should probably work on being calmer and more assertive in a date.
I found out she's Catholic! Sweet! Not exactly what I was hoping for, but Christian is awesome either way!
Then we talked politics. We literally sat and talked politics for two hours. Nick advises people to avoid politics. And I tried to as well. I said,
I love talking politics, but it's one of the topics to avoid when first meeting someone.
I love politics too. I don't care.
I told her I was a firm conservative, and then I found out that she was a flaming liberal.
We talked abortion, free speech, hate speech, political correctness, etc.
We also had some really great playful banter.
I'm not fishing for compliments.
Oh you had me fooled.
So we spent the rest of the night accusing the other of fishing for compliments.
She would forget what she was saying and ask me to remind her. I'd say,
Oh I think you were talking about how handsome I am, but I'm not fishing for compliments.
She also really enjoyed compliments. I told her that she was really pretty, had a find figure, I liked her earings, etc. Almost everytime she gave me a big smile and thanked me.
At about 8:30pm, I said,
I'm not sure how late you want to stay.
I should probably be heading back.
Ok. Do you mind if I join you.
I should have been more assertive and said that I would walk her back.
Ok. There's two ways we can do this. We can take my car, or I can walk you back.
Ok. I'll walk you back. I'd rather spend more time with you.
As we were walking I noticed that her hand was outside her coat. Time to separate the men from the boys.
I reached down and tried to grab her hand.
Then we were holding hands. Simple as lemonade.
Why'd you say oh for?
I guess my past boyfriends would never really hold me hand. They thought it was PDA.
What do you think?
I purposely chose the long way to take her back. I actually walked to the wrong location.
Is that your door?
No. I'm not actually sure where we are.
Oh...Well I meant to do that.
Good save. When I finally got her back to her dorm, I gave her a hug. She hugged back, but it felt distant. I hardly felt her arms around me. I held it for a little longer than normal, then let go and tried to look into her eyes.
She stepped back and looked away.
So she probably doesn't want to be kissed.
She started walking to her dorm and I asked,
Should I be making a move?
Don't you think it's a little too soon?
Ok. Just checking.
I told her that we should do a movie night before she heads home, but she said
Well your timing is pretty awful. I'm going to be really busy studying this week.
I pushed once more.
It's not like you have a bedtime. You are a night owl.
True, but I should really study.
I'll let you know if I can work it into my schedule.
I'll shoot a text her way sometime today and tell her that I had a fun time hanging out with her. If she can't work me into her schedule, that's fine. I might invite her to a lunch on campus though one day. She's gotta eat lunch sometime.