So I finally broke up with Emily. It was the right thing to do. We have different religions, and I just didn't see it working out in the long run. She agreed.
Now I'm like pursuing 4 different women. I will be honest with them and let them all know that I'm pursuing multiple women, but I feel like this could really backfire any second...Let me explain.
Nick has a blogpost talking about dating many women at once. He explains that finding your best friend is about meeting lots of people. You meet with lots of people, and you slowly discover what qualities you want in a best friend. This lets you meet your best friend very quickly. If I only dated one girl at a time, then I would find an ideal spouse slowly.
Anyway, I'm pretty sure that since I live in a conservative town, most of the girls are going to be uncomfortable with the idea of seeing a guy that is seeing more than one girl. I've got to figure out how to explain it. 3 of these girls are girls that I kind of work with. 2 work in the same department, but one works weekends and the other works week days. And I'm worried that other people there will mention to them that I'm flirting with both of them.
I'm not trying to disrespect them. I'm just interested in finding a spouse quickly. I hope they understand that.
Also I'm trying something different with both of them. Since I've only talked with them both for 5+ minutes tops, I've added them both of Facebook, and I've been trying to chat them up. The old me, would have asked them out as soon as I added them. The new me, is trying to get to know them a bit better first. This might give them a chance to warm up to me. I really hope that works out.
One of these girls, we'll call Stephanie, is fairly short and pretty cute. I accidentally introduced her to a new employee,
Hey this is Stephanie. She's a new girl.
And Stephanie said,
I'm not new. I've been her since September!
We had a very short conversation after that, because we both were working. Then I asked if she didn't mind if I added her on Facebook, which I did. And we've been talking for a bit.
Today, when I walked into work, I walked back to where Stephanie usually works. I wanted to say hello to her. One of the other girls say me and said,
Sorry dude. Stephanie is not here today.
So apparently even the other employees know that I'm hitting on her pretty hard.
Another girl, that we'll call Marsha (her real name is much prettier), is someone that I work with at least once a week. I normally work in the mornings and she normally works in the evenings. But sometimes we get to work together, like we did today.
Anyway, Marsh is gorgeous. Gorgeous and insanely hard worker. She's taking 20+ college credits and working a part time job at the same time! Woah! I was a little bit intimidated by how great she looked when I first met her. But now I'm a lot more comfortable around her. For the longest time, I really wasn't certain if she liked me or not, but I'm getting more and more green light signs. Or at least she's ok with my flirting with her.
So for a while, I would joke and tease her while we worked. And it seemed like she preferred to talk to me at work. Then she started talking to another guy a bit more, and sometimes it felt like she avoided talking to me. Now it seems a bit the other way.
Here are the two things that make me think she likes me. But first me explain some of the ways that I thought she didn't like me. Our work plays music a lot. One day during our work, they were playing a song, and she casually mentioned that she took some formal dance lessons. Awesome.
So I said,
Would you care to show me some moves?
Well I need a partner for that...
I'll volunteer, I said.
She smiled a bit and looked away. She didn't really say anything. So I thought, I'll back off a bit.
Later on, I decided I would send her this text message (I got her phone number a month ago),
Dear Marsha, I'm the Dr. from the future. The safety of the planet is at risk You have to dance with Joshua Branson or all of humanity will die!
I told her as we left,
So I sent you a text message, that i thought was really funny, but I might have gone a little far...
And she never responded. I thought,
Well crap. She ain't interested. Ok I'll back off.
But then I thought back, that I really never know if a girl likes me or not, until I ask her out 2 or 3 times. So I thought,
Her distance to one text message does not imply her dislike. I'll ask her about the text message and see what she says.
So today I asked her,
Did you get my weird text message? Was it a bit too much?
Yeah, I just didn't respond. And no. It wasn't too much. I just didn't respond.
So that one could go either way. She did not say,
Yeah that was weird. But she also didn't say,
No it was really sweet.
So eh. She also sometimes avoids looking at me. So I'm not sure about that one either.
Here's the first really positive thing that happened today. We both walked into a room and she said,
Wow it's really hot in here.
Yeah you're here.
She smiled, but didn't look at me.
Was that a bad thing to say? I asked.
No. she said and looked at me and smiled.
So I'm probably going to ask her out dancing one night. That sounds like a blast.
There is another girl that I think is pretty cute too. I sort of spent the whole day with a bunch of friends in Chicago, and it was a blast! There is a really cute asian girl that we'll call, Natalie. She pretended to be a New Yorker and broke my bubble space to explain how tight New York was. She was also ok with me resting my arm on her leg. She got some moral quirkes that I'm not sure I'm ok with, but she seems like a nice gal.
Basically I'm really excited to feel like I have options for dating people, but I'm a little concerned that it will blow up in my face.