thanks for the tip. That's actually what a friend told me today. No one wants to be the bounce back relationship. Said girl does seem a little upset about the previous relationship still. I actually did ask her out, and she said no. It's really weird though. It really proves that I don't know if a girl likes me until I ask her out. Like at all.
It's also weird, because I was so positive that she did like me! Good golly was she flirty! She said we should pretend to be engaged. She walked me outside, barefoot on the frozen concrete! She agreed to be my valentine. Then she said no when I asked her on a date.
She also apparently invited a friend over so we wouldn't be alone. After I asked her to be my valentine her texts to me suddenly stopped. When I saw her later, she immediately said that she hated boys and brought up another guy that she likes. SO I feel like 80% of her is not interested. It's such a weird feeling, feeling so positive that someone likes you, and then you discover that you're mistaken.
Maybe I rushed a bit. Maybe I asked her out too soon. I did ask her out on day 3 of meeting her so...But I've also met 2 girls and asked the out within hours of meeting them, and they agreed. So apparently it's possible to have instant attraction.
I'm also just trying to figure out if there's more that I need to do to better seal the deal. I think I am so focused of being funny, that I can sometimes forget to show manliness. But then again, I can't imagine Robin Williams being a macho guy hitting on women, and he was married 3 times.
I really don't know. I basically want to re-think my whole life. haha. I'm not super upset about Sophie saying no. I'm not. I'm just really surprised that I was soo convinced that I had sealed the deal, but then didn't.
I think I did do some of the things slightly wrong. I did perhaps try to sell myself. She mentioned what she wanted in a guy, and I said I've got those qualities. Maybe I was in the mindset of "show what you've got"instead of äsk what she has". Also maybe she's is just not ready for any kind of relationship, so she's a bad test subject to learn from. Also maybe I will only ever know if a girl likes me, after I ask her out.
I have certainly made a lot of progress. This progress journal has gotten me dates, it's gotten me kissed, it's gotten me to try new clubs. It's done a lot of work, and I'm not giving up.
Also on the positive side, Sophie is super playful. Randomly in our conversations we'd have pillow fights, laugh, challenge each other to tickle competitions, etc. I'm actually really looking forward to meeting another playful lady.