A new girl at work
I seem to get crushes for girls at my work a lot! haha. So there is a girl at my work that we will call Stacy. Stacey is eye brow raisingly beautiful. Looking at her is a little like trying to look at a sunrise. It's beautiful, but it's hard to look at it for too long.
She started working as a receptionist at my work. At the time I was still working at the back of the place. My co-worker, Kyle called dibs on this girl, almost as soon as he saw her. I know that there are plenty of other girls, so I didn't really care.
"That's fine," I said, "I'll find someone else."
Since I worked in a different part of the building, my interactions with Stacy were minimal. But recently, I have been promoted to the area where she works. Kyle has not made his move, and he's told me that he doesn't really want a girlfriend. Another friend of mine (Dacoda), mentioned that he thought Stacy was cute as well. I told Dacoda that I would put in a good word for him.
Unfortunately, last night I worked with Stacy and Dacoda. And I could not really help myself. I was /really/ flirty! I tried to stay away from Stacy and let Dacoda make his move. There were a couple of times when Dacoda made a look at me to back off, but I couldn't. Stacy was super cute, and I want a girlfriend too.
Almost as soon as she arrived, she was oblivious to Dacoda and mine's unease with her being so near. There was a slight pause, where neither Dacoda or I made eye-contact with Stacy or said much of anything. She didn't seem to notice this.
I started making eye contact, and teasing her. I knew that she was going through a rough time, and since I was trying to make a good connection, I asked her about it when we were alone. I was surprised at the level of detail that she gave me. She is going through a ton of stuff. I mentioned that it is probably a good idea to have a strong family structure. I suggested a church.
I even surprised myself, when she asked me how I was doing, that I gave a fairly honest answer. Normally I would want to avoid this. In my experience mentioning to a girl that you don't have everything together is /not/ a good idea. But she seemed ok with it. And we still flirted that night.
I also did my normal routine, let's lie and see how far I get. She asked me what sports I did in high school.
"Pole dancing, volunteer firefighter, suicide hotline volunteer."
I said lots of things like that to tease her.
Later that night I started touching her appropriately. I checked her bicep size. I bumped into her on purpose. I lightly patted her belly to see if she was wearing a bomb. I leaned into her ear to whisper goofy jokes. Then I started teasing her.
I'm a little torn on this issue. So Nick 'DeAngelo (I think that's his name), is a dating coach that recommends that you tease a girl. Girls hear "You are beautiful" all the time. They want something different.
So if you say to a girl, "I really hope you're not the kind of girl that gets her way everytime because you're good looking."
The girl was pause, and go, "What?"
You're not trying to be mean to the girl. You're not trying to belittle her. You are trying to show her, that she will not get any special treatment from you just because she's pretty.
The problem is, I hate doing this! I feel like I'm playing a manipulation game. I don't want to negatively tease a girl. I think that is /really/ mean. But I also know that I haven't been that good at getting a girlfriend, so maybe this is the strategy that I should try. In an ideal would, I would not have to negatively tease a girl. I could just instead positively tease her, but until I'm good at getting a girlfriend, then for now I will negatively tease her everynow and then. Here are some examples from last night:
I checked her bicep size when she asked if I worked out. I mentioned that she was small for a girl.
She was a little annoyed with me. But I double downed.
"Don't feel bad," I said, "I'm just better than you, because I'm a guy."
Later on I started calling her "short-stop." It's a little bit of a negative tease. She responded by calling me "Joshy."
This is probably the two that I feel the most guilty about...
There was an older gentleman, who gave her a tip, because "She had a beautiful smile."
I tease her about that a lot!
"Make sure you smile to the next customer. You want to get tipped again!"
She later told me that she wished that she had dimples.
I wanted to re-assure her that she is pretty. So I said, "You look really good...most days."
I hated that I added in that last line, but it is the strategy that I am currently using.
Later on, she weighed herself, and asked me to guess how much. I really did not want to, but she insisted. I was a little low.
Then I said, "I guess it's all in your butt."
I feel really bad about that. I don't want her to feel insecure in her body, because she looks amazing.
One other fun thing that happened that night...She at one pointed mentioned that her boobs were a little small.
Both Dacoda and I said, "We don't have any comment for that. at all."
Two minutes later, when she was standing next to me, I whispered, "You have a fine figure."
A little while later, Stacy and I were alone again.
I asked, "Have you seen Deadpool?"
"No. Not yet."
I said, "It's out in theaters now. Would you want to go with me and watch it?"
I was a little nervous when I said it.
But she put on a little smile and agreed. She wrote down her number for me.
I hate that I'm doing this, but I haven't called her yet. Normally I would text her right after she gave me the number. But I'm trying a new strategy of waiting a few days. We'll see what happens.
I do like this girl. She is hurting, a little foul mouthed, but sweet.