What's going on bros? I have a situation. I started a new job a few months ago, and during that time, I started to notice this older woman across the hall from me. Didn't at first, but at one point, I developed a strong attraction (crush) and was so nervous I wasn't sleeping or eating well for a week or two. I finally confided in a confidant at work, and she has been helping find some things out. Turns out that this woman is single, had a LTR for many years that went sour, some ambiguous bad thing happened, but they're still friends blah blah. Lives pretty much with her bro, his wife, and her beloved dogs.
Now I'm in my mid 20s, and she's in her mid 40s, 20 years exact difference. It's been a thing (kind of a fantasy) to date an older woman since my late teens. I can't help but find them and her specifically, attractive. She's got tan skin, small waist, curvy, and something about her facial expressions are slightly seductive. But, she's pretty business minded, only giving her socialization out sporadically, and I sense very guarded and to herself. I'm new, and she's been there almost 15 years, with the title supervisor. She's got a dry wit, swears like a sailor really telling you how it is, a hard woman in many ways, but rebellious. She's known for doing her own thing, which all kinda make her more sexy to me.
Now our interaction due to the previously stated is limited to me asking questions, morning greetings, and saying goodbye. I once went into her office, and we had a nice chat for like 15 minutes. Otherwise, it's small talk. She reviewed some of my charts Monday, approached me with some critical feedback, and has demonstrated that she has my back, almost like she's looking out for me a bit. But I have to be real with a few things...
I have found myself wanting her validation, bc when she started to use my name in the morning, it makes me feel good (and sounds kinda hot). We catch eyes sometimes, and she grins or whispers a greeting if she's walking with a client, and I think for a sec that the glances mean that maybe she knows what's up. This is my job, she's way older, and I'm sure there are other things that are way off...but the glance, the grin, which could be just my male interpretation, make me curious. She doesn't overtly flirt, touch, and dresses conservatively despite having a potty mouth haha. So proper eye contact will be critical here.
How do I get closer to her, given that she is usually busy, doesn't like to socialize much with coworkers like that, and really only opens up about her personal life (and still not totally) with other senior staff? How do I get into her head, build a rapport without her feeling uncomfortable with me? Thing is, I never had a gf...I am always going to fall short of the "experience with women" factor until then, especially with a much older senorita, so I need to know some ways to bridge some of the gap here. Any feedback? Cheers