So lately I've been noticing this weird thing that's been happening to me with chicks. I would like to explain it here and see what neutral 3rd parties think.
Occasionally I'll be out, often at live music events, meet women, and hit it off instantly with them. I see positive body language, I turn up the flirtation and they respond really well, only for a boyfriend to appear later and just shut down the connection I've established with the girl (understandably). Just today I started talking with this chick, made plans to meet up next week, became facebook friends by the end of the convo and subsequently found out she's "In A Relationship". Believe me I am showing my attraction to her, there are no "friendly intentions" if you know what I mean.
At first I was thinking this was all in my head. But then one day it happened twice with two different girls within about an hour of each instance and I thought "ok there's gotta be something else going on here".
Just to provide context, on the day it happened twice I was at a music festival in NY, started dancing/chilling with a girl, chatted her up, she's giving me all smiles and positive signals, and out of nowhere a boyfriend shows up, sees that his gf is hitting it off with me and wrap his arms around her in a defensive show of "territory". This EXACT same sequence of events occurred right after another, legit tripped me out. I felt bad because I had no idea he was part of the picture since the girl did not mention him. As soon as this would happen the vibes would be killed and I felt like a douche, would have to walk away because I could tell the dude felt threatened by me.
These situations often happen in social gathering, not limited to music events. Sometimes it even gets initiated by the girl! I'm kind of bothered by it because a) it's happening pretty often now and b) it's much less often I hit it off that well with available girls. I'll get excited about a girl only to be let down later by the fact that she's unavailable, and I know she intentionally kept that information from me despite my clear intentions. I mean I get that everyone (not just chicks) want to feel desired and all that but with how often it's happening it it's just getting ridiculous. Is anyone familiar with this situation, and if so, can you give me a way to understand it, or better yet, how to avoid it? I don't like making guys feel threatened by me. Any female input would be especially appreciated, I plan to ask my girl friends when I get a chance as well.