Hi. I know Nick has an article on this but I still think my lack of success is due to race.
I live in Australia, in a very big city. I have a very strong suspicion that my race is the reason I have no success at dating. Race itself is not that bad, but as I am very short at only 173-174 (5"8/5"8.5), I feel the two are a kiss of death. Race is an issue since my ethnicity is Pakistani (or basically Indian) which means an overwhelming majority of women simply disqualify me based on that. I feel that is true since I don't think any woman I approach sees me as dating potential from the start. They will respond very positively but that is because they do not even see me as an option so they will be friendly.
It is annoying because as I get no flirting signs from women in general, it is not appropriate for me to escalate because that is just weird.
Has anyone here overcome that barrier?
It is not like I am an FA. I have good friends who have good lives, I work a fun part-time job, and work out, do cool stuff if uni gives me time haha.
Also, as a last resort I am willing to do little white lies about my background in order to elicit interest. I do not identify with Pakistan so much so pretty much do not care.
So anyone has help on how I can overcome my Pakistani ethnicity in order to stand out?