Hey, guys. I saw a few of you read through my initial "Learning the Ropes" post, and though I haven't gotten any replies, I'm working under the assumption that a lot of you are thinking that I figured it out for myself and that the best advice would be to get out there and put words into action.
My first post here in this progress journal is going to tell you how I am, my past experience and what I want to do, so bear with the length, please.
Me... I'm very extroverted, love getting out in groups of people, will talk to anyone from a random guy to the hottest woman in the area (funny story about that for another thread), but anyway... Love making friends, exude positive energy and have fun while I'm at it. However, my problem is knowing which side of the line to stand on and... to put it bluntly, lacking the balls to step over the line because of fear of rejection.
What this ends up as is... I may talk to the hottest girl in the bar, hold her attention and have a great conversation, but leave without asking for a date or a phone number, even if we've talked for several minutes, maintained eye contact and done some medium level touching (sitting close enough to touch side by side or wrapping an arm around her waist and leaning into her).
I've been in three relationships, and in all three the woman made the first move. One was a LDR, the second was in college with a woman I thought would have been out of my league, and the third was with a friend with mutual interests that I shouldn't've tried to make something out of (she's the one who made me realize the main difference between friendship and relationship is physical attraction to your partner.)
What I want is to be more comfortable approaching women romantically rather than platonically and eventually find the right woman for me.
What I'm going to do about it... is there's a pub that has Karaoke nights on Wednesdays that I regularly frequent. I love to sing karaoke and have a great audience response, so what I'll try to do next Wednesday is find a woman I'm interested in and do my best to leave with her phone number, then follow up and ask her out.
If anyone has input of any type, I'd love to hear it! I look forward to it, because I didn't realize how much was involved until I read through Nick's Dating 101, and I realize that I've been making mistakes primarily because I simply don't follow through!