Saturday, December 13, 2014
Hey @Joshua, thanks for the reply. Certainly some solid advice; I made it known to Christie that I'm interested as more than just a friend, and she seems to feel the same way. However, I didn't create as much sexual tension as I would have liked. I'll explain more below. With regard to speaking with confidence, I've come a long way in the past 2 years. I've taken vocal classes and focused a lot on expression, inflection, projection, and vocal variety, and I'm quite happy with how my voice sounds these days!
With regard to the date tonight, I think it went well overall. We had some navigation issues because my GPS kept misleading me, haha. As we walked around and looked at the lights display, I'd place my hand on the small of Christie's back to lead her through the crowd. After a while, I realized I hadn't made much physical contact, so I decided I would try to hold her hand as we walked around. I kept waiting for her to pull her hands out of her coat pockets, but I realized that wasn't going to happen, so I nudged her arm and took her hand.
We walked around hand-in-hand for a while until we came to a balcony overlooking a pond, from which we could see the beautiful reflections of the lights in the water. We stood there for maybe 10-15 minutes, talking about more serious topics. She opened up to me about her career ambitions and other personal subjects. Looking back, I wish I had gone for a kiss at this point, but I don't think I had escalated enough. I had touched her back a few times and held her hand, but I'm still not experienced with sexual tension and escalation yet, so it didn't really go past that.
After viewing the lights, I suggested going out for ice cream (it was a surprisingly warm night for the winter). She agreed, but one place was closed for the season, and the other was closed for maintenance or something. I was hoping I could escalate more at the ice cream parlor, but that didn't happen, so I just drove her home. She said she had a lot of fun, and would like to see each other again sometime, so I'll probably ask her out again soon.
Overall, I think the date went well. Our conversations were organic and flowed comfortably. I definitely wish I had escalated things more, as I think she would have been receptive about it if I had gone about it naturally and confidently. The few times I did touch her, it didn't feel as natural as I would have liked, so I'll need to work on that. It felt natural when we held hands, however. If I had gone on this date just a few months ago, I don't think I would have even done that.
I'm extremely glad this experience happened because it helped me fully get past my ex-girlfriend, since she had been the only girl I'd been with. I've been pretty well past her for a couple months now, but she'd still be on my mind often. That's not the case anymore, thankfully. I think this is just the first step towards something great.