Stopped dating for 3 years, lost my mojo

[bigbossbass]

I basically just drifted away from dating after breaking up with a 3 year relationship. Put forth no effort. I know some of the basics of attraction. Anyway, here is the situation I need help with. I have been working with this chick for about a year, had her phone number for about 6 months. We text a lot but only light, joking type stuff. I had decided that I don't date co-workers but now I have changed my mind because I think it's silly to restrict myself like that. I have not done any of the typical friend zone or wussy behaviors but I also haven't flirted bc I just did not approach her as a potential mate. How do I shift gears? I was thinking about telling her something along the lines of "i had this rule that I never date co-workers, but all rules have an exception." Or maybe I should just ask her out for drinks and escalate casually. I am 100 percent certain she was attracted to me about 3 months ago but it has seemingly waned since I did not act on the chemistry and ask her out. What do I do guys?

[Joshua]

Hey man,

Usually you want to show that you are interested in someone soon after you meet them. If you do not escalate, the girl will move on. I personally have never been able to woo a girl 6 months after I met her. It normally is just a bad way to go about doing it.

If you want to try dating her now, then go for it. Here are some tips. DON'T tell her how you feel and force this issue. Don't sit her down and confess that you like her.

You need to try flirting with her a bit. Try touching her appropriately. Make good eye contact. Try setting up a casual meeting with her. I would try to ask her out 2 or 3 times. Try to make it sound like you just want to hang out with her. Then when you meet her act like it is a date. Calling it a date beforehand, might put a bit of pressure on her.

If she does not hang out with you and you tried asking 3 times, then move on. You're better off finding someone that is interested in hanging out with you.