Man I've been starving for this update. Leggooo'
20140427 Sat (Approach 11-13)
So for all of you keeping score at home, I've been flaked twice in two days. Library girl from yesterday bailed, and hot water girl today bailed. Here's the texts:
Library: (Roughly forty minutes before our date)
H) I don't normally do this, and I'm going to apologize profusely, but we're going to have to raincheck. I have part of my thesis due today and I'm not going to make it to campus by 11 with the stuff I need to finish :/
M) How dare you be on the cutting edge of research and knowledge!)
M) Hahaha, I understand. Take care of your thesis and have a good weekend
H) Hahaha I don't know if we want to call this philosophy thesis "cutting edge." But thank you. You too
My thoughts on that one are that I freaked her out with too much flirting/not enough communication. I'll try striking her up, along with Thesis on Sunday. Not sure what to do about Hot Water:
Hot Water (40 Minutes before our date)
M) Hopping in the shower, see you soon
H) I'm so so sorry I can't make it tonight my mom took me to dinner and I haven't even showered
M) I'll hold my breath just one drink and we'll be back before you know it
H) no i'm really sorry I can't tonight. let's get coffee this week?
M) No problem, how's Wednesday? I've got time at one
H) I have a final wed :/ are you going out tonight
M) Yea -- hanging with my roommates then headed to a party
H) oh cool where
M) Sawyer hall
M) I'm headed over now -- come meet me (this was twenty minutes or so after)
H) I'm off campus
@Nick and I were talking about this girl, and I think I agree that she was nervous and ended up canceling. That being said, having two flakes in a row is really taxing.
The one redeeming event of the night was that a coworker who I'm on pretty good terms with had jokingly complained that we never hung out/partied together. This Saturday since he was hosting, I couldn't say no when he invited me. As a result, I went my first college party all semester, and had a pretty good time. (And yes @Nick, I was totally thinking of this article hahaha)
What was really refreshing about this party was how different it was from before. Back in sophomore and freshman year, I would be much more awkward and listless throughout the event. This time, I had both the good fortune to know several people there, in addition to knowing what I wanted to do (I'm a sucker for drinking games: beer pong, slap a hoe, etc.) As such, arriving at at 11pm, the party really flew by. Here too was where I got two of my three numbers.
Dancing Queen was a girl that I danced with, who I had an in with because I had danced with her friend earlier. I was really impressed with how out there she was with her dance moves, so I threw my own lame ones in, and she loved the energy. As a result, all night this friend introduced me to her friends, and that's how I met Dancing Queen. So far I've just texted her my name, but hopefully we have a connection.
Jay-Z was a girl that I met when I asked her to dance. I couldn't tell if she genuinely didn't hear me, or if she wanted to slow the pace more, but she countered my request with her hand and a self introduction. We talked for a bit, shared our mutual interest in the Chinese language (I think this was a big sticking point?) and then she bounced off to find her friend. As the party was winding down, I made it a point to find her, tell her I was leaving, and get her number. Here's our dialog so far:
M) You put your name in my phone silly =P
Finally, my favorite interaction of the night. As I was headed back to my dorm, I was taking the elevator from the first floor up. On the second floor, this girl (who I'll call BU) and five guys stepped in separately. The girl was going to the top (same floor as me), but the other five guys were taking it up two flights, so I played along and instigated her to talk some shit about them after they got off. After we got to our floor, my first instinct was to drag her back for a night cap. She declined but responded well, and we had a good few minutes of playful conversation, including some very blunt flirting on my half, and some hand holding. She gave me her number and here was the dialog:
M) Offers still open at my room, come over
H) Hahaha only if you get my name right
M) It started with a B right? =P
H) So classy
M) Cutest girl I done met tonight
M) But don't be jealous, she was really good at licking stuff from her lips
My concern is that a) she was reasonably drunk (but not so drunk that she forgot to go back to her room!) and b) I might have come on too strong. I'll keep you guys with what's good, but I want to go to the meat of my ideas in another post.