Meant to do this last night, but sleep over took me:
20140430 - IDWIW Mid Update (Approach 14)
So I'm two days deep into this micro experiment of mine, and it's been a great experience so far. Not to say that I've been able to flip my personality on the turn of a dime, but there's definitely some noteworthy stories to share.
Woke up before noon (you should know this is a huge accomplishment,) graded homework for two hours. At noon, went to a class, office hours, class again, and a presentation late afternoon. Throughout this period there were three girls who I saw, each of whom I didn't approach. Two of them seemed a little out of the way, and the third one was just me being a coward hahaha. Overall, no big change from pre-experiment, but I was optimistic about improvement since I realized I hadn't missed out on anything that bad. On to day two!
Skipped class at noon to go and hang out with another professor, work afterwards. I had a set up a date with this girl at 6pm, so I texted her after I got out at 5pm. No response for quite a bit, but I wasn't worried, I had some other stuff lined up for the evening, and plus who would pass on a man like me? Hahaha, she ended up getting back to me ten minutes before six, saying she just woke up from nap and could we meet fifteen minutes later. We met at a school dining hall, got some food, and went to sit.
Highlights from the date include me pushing two tables together, her asking me why, and me standing my ground because I wanted to sit next to her. Other than that, conversation ran slowly, she was very hard to open up, but she did start up conversation on a couple of occasions where the conversation had come to an end. I didn't touch her much as she started off having her backpack between us, which I put down on the floor halfway through. Earlier this girl had said that she had a group meeting at 7, and I myself had a lecture at 8, so fifteen minutes before the hour I decided to try and go for the kiss. I went about it by moving my face closer, and just like in a Scooby Doo episode, her face shifted back in parallel hahahaha After I came back, I smiled when she asked "What are you doing?" and responded "Well, I was going to kiss you." This was one of the three occasions where her voice broke monotone and she mumbled something about "not being able to do that" blah whatever. I should have stayed and carried on more conversation, but truthfully our conversation was already so dry that I wanted to end the date, so I did. We walked out, she stopped to say hi to one of her friends, and at the foyer where we were separating I tried to kiss her goodbye, and only got the cheek. Also, earlier when I tried to hold her hand as we walked out, she slipped her hand out. No biggie, I'm still open to seeing her again, but we'll see.
Went to attend my lecture super early cause I knew it was going to be popular and seats were going to fill up. Met an acquaintance/classmate outside the hall, and she fed me cookies and tuna rolls cause I'm a sucker for free food. While I was nomming away, this cute girl called me out and asked "Hey! You're the guy who always answers the really hard questions in class!" to which I laughed and used as a chance to talk to her. In stark contrast to my date, conversation went very smoothly, although I didn't get to do any flirting. We tried to sit together during the lecture, but the seats just filled up too quickly. I did get her number, so we'll see! (Fun fact, I tried to text her before the lecture began, only to find she misspelled her number, so I gave it to her to fix. Details!)
After the lecture, the girl from above bounced really quickly, so I went to go meet my friend. He had been attending the same lecture, and wanted to grab dinner, but my professor that everyone was going to a bar after the lecture (foreigners hahaa) and I wanted to go. This is a marked departure from my previous attitudes, cause I would've been timid and avoided the opportunity. Partially because of his talk (it was one of those last lecture series, if you're familiar), partially because of IDWIW, partially because I had a good friend who I wanted to spend more time with, I convinced him (!!!) to come out with me in lieu of his group project meeting soon. We got dinner, drank cardboardeaux (shits amazing, so volumetrically efficient), then headed out. At the bus stop we met up with some of his friends by chance, and they gave me some props for dragging him out.
In the bar, obviously our professor was the man of the hour. We got our customary selfies with him (again; something I'm normally embarrassed about but fuck it I'm just that kind of sentimental guy) and I settled into a discussion with my friend's group. Said friend actually left for his group project at one point, leaving me with the four girls (not as exciting as it sounds, promise) I got along with two of them really well, the other two somewhat in a peripheral view, but I started getting curious about the rest of the bar. I told them to save a seat for me and decided to walk around. Second floor didn't have too much going on, until I saw a girl who I thought I had seen before.
We struck up a conversation, and the topic material was surprisingly candid. Talked about our mixed feelings for our school, experiences from freshman year, etc. I got a minimum three hugs from her yesterday night, and some weird hand holding (I tried to do something intimate but she kept turning it into a handshake? lolol) and at one point I tried to make more front on face contact with a forehead press (you press your forehead onto the other person's forehead, almost like a headbump) and she backed off. At this point I'd spent a good twenty minutes talking to her, and I figured if her comfort level wasn't ready for a kiss I'd just take a number and call it a night.
Not directly related to game, but as I was headed back to the first floor some guy grabbed my shoulder and shook my hand. I immediately recognized him as an attendee at this event I had helped live translate for, and we struck up a conversation. He expressed admiration for my linguistic skills, and I expressed admiration for his international studying background, just a lot of good value being shared around. I ended up pulling him downstairs to say hi to some friends and of course our professor.
Pack downstairs it seems my friends had found a table, so now I had a base. I brought my friend over to the groups and got into some great conversations. (Full disclosure: this was totally easier because I had participated on on campus events, taken classes, lived in a college community. Nightgame/social activities are normally my weakest, but I fully understand I'm in a privileged position right now haha.) At one point opened this other girl and we talked for a good bit, got her phone number. She seemed a bit distant/reserved, so I didn't try to kiss her then and there (not to mention my professor being there and the social context).
I returned to my table with my friends, shot the shit, and at one point that friend from upstairs came downstairs and brought his cute Danish friend. We talked around for a while in a group setting/side conversation style, and I got her number before we immersed back into the group collection. At this point I was pretty pleased and looking to head back (I've got class in thirty minutes as we speak!) but this was when the highlight took place.
At the bus stop, I saw these two girls eating pizza, and man did it smell amazing. (Seriously, free food, I'm a sucker.) At some point one of the girls made a comment about taking selfies for daze, and I echoed "for dazeeee" in one of those exaggerated telemundo announcer voices if you know what I mean. She responded really well to it, and asked me to take their photos using her phone. Personally, whenever I take photos I try to get people to smile naturally, so I like weaving in my sexual humor. As the two were smiling and posing with their pizzas, I would say stuff like "Oh yeah you bit into that crust" and "Lord you're getting me hot just licking that sauce" and the friendly girl's friend just started cracking up. Needless to say I got some awesome candids
At this point, the red head/asked me for the selfie girl and I struck up a conversation, and I mentioned "Hey no need for thanks, but if you could I'd really love a bite of your pizza." She fed me the pizza and got me to take a bite of the crust, and I took a seat next to her. Some playful complimenting (you're awesome! no, you're awesome!) before she introduced herself as Love. I was totally digging it, because just before this I was saying how she was a gift from god with her pizza offerings. Out of tongue-in-cheek, I asked if her friend's name was Peace, and the two just flipped their shit. How did I know her name?!? I did a little victory lap around the bus stop and came back to keep talking.
I don't remember much about after that, but this was my favorite part of the night: at one point, I was sitting with Love (the girl I decided I wanted to bring back) and Peace, and Love wanted to eat some of Peace's crust. After she took a bite of Peace's crust, I fed her the crust that she had given me earlier. I deliberately put it in a little slowly and as she was chewing I put my hand on her lower face area cause she had a pizza stain. At first she jumped a little, but I told her I was just cleaning up something on her face. After she accepted that, I moved my face in and licked the spot (sauce stains harden) and kissed it to get rid of the stain. Then, stay in, smile with Love, and a gentle kiss on the lips. She was definitely into it, and afterwards I held her hand and she interlocked, then I asked her to come back with me.
As it turns out, the two of them were lesbians. Love had told me to ask her friend about bringing her back, so I asked Peace if it was alright for me to bring Love back for more conversation. Peace laughed and explained that they were dating, to which I responded "Wow, good pick. Naturally, the offer is extended to you as well." which also made Peace laugh. Love was the female (I think) and Peace was the slightly more insecure. From their very long argument on the bus, I could discern that Love had definitely tried to see men as a sophomore or something, but she and Peace were together. At one point on the bus ride, I decided I didn't want to risk the trouble of sleeping with a girl who was in a relationship with another girl, so I bid them a good night. I ended up seeing one of my friends from the bar on the bus back, so we hung out for a bit back in my room before I dropped her off in her dorm.
Lots to digest, and I definitely have some thoughts, but I gotta dress and go to class. More later!