Hello everyone. I'm new here, and I'd like some advice, if possible. My situation is not very unusual: I fell in love (or at least that's what it seems) with a friend of mine. Problem is: She's dating someone else. I knew that from the beginning, and I never even expected to have feelings for her. Yet now here I am, thinking about her everyday. So, here's my situation explained a bit more:
We met some time ago on college, and we became friends very fast. We talk everyday, sometimes we hang out, and we have a lot of fun together. She's an incredible woman, who sticks strongly to what she believes and isn't scared to say what's on her mind. I find amusing the way she gets into an argument with someone so quickly for stating her opinion so bluntly.
However, sometimes she gets sad all of a sudden. As a gentleman (or so I like to think) and as someone who cares for her, I'm always there to show her my support. She's the kind that stubbornly refuses to tell what's bothering her. But I do know that her boyfriend is part of the reason she suddenly gets gloomy. I don't seem to recall a single time where she spoke of this guy and actually said something positive about him or their relationship.
Until I found this website, I've been the typical "Nice guy". I came to realize that after reading some articles. I do touch her everyday, I tease her and I often give subtle hints that I'm interested. But I don't know. I don't feel a romantic interest from her, or even sexual. I fell like I've been just her emotional support.
But of course, I'm not interested in being "just friends" anymore. I want to reach out to her and make her see me in a different way. I want her to look at me as more than a friend. She became important to me, so if I'm supposed to move on, I'd like to fight first. I want to invest in her. I want her to know how I TRULY see her. I think I've been lying my way into the friendzone, but I want to leave it. I want to grow up, so I want to face my fear.
What should I do? Should I invest some more time on her, this time being more "shameless", direct and honest about what I feel? Should I just move on and end this amazing friendship? I haven't spoken to her for the past 3 days to sort out my feelings. Should I stop completely? Please tell me what to do. Knowing she's with someone else, and unhappy, makes me so confused. I want her to run to my arms not for comfort, but also for love. How can I attract her sexually? Should I even do it? Am I being needy?
In our fairy tale, I'm the dragon. How can I be the knight, instead? Thanks in advance.
