Thank you @Nick!
Monday night went very well. I'd invited Erin to hang out at Castle Island with me after work, as she worked near South Boston. I picked her up and we headed over. The weather was kinda crappy. It was getting cold and there were signs of rain. The upside of this was there was plenty of wind, and I had my kite. We mostly had the island to ourselves, barring a few people walking dogs.
Erin was not very good at kite flying, but absolutely refused to give up. I laid out a blanket for us to sit on as I lifted it high in the air. She would start to run. My kite is difficult to control. It likes to flip over and fly down unless it has plenty of wind. After a half hour or so it was in the sky though. We'd been pretty flirty the whole time, so I walked towards her and whispered "Can you fly distracted?" Realizing I was going in for a kiss, she said "Oh no, not that." And she meant it. So I smiled and said "OK" and backed off.
We hung out flying the kite for a little while longer. After we'd been there around an hour it got old, so we packed up to leave. I asked if she was hungry. "Starving! I wasn't going to say anything." "OK good, I'm hungry too." We talked about what sort of food to get. She was pretty indecisive, so I asked if there were any foods she DIDN'T like, mostly wanted to tell if she was a vegan or something. She said she wasn't a big fan of barbecue, or anything where it was just a slab of meet on a plate. She'd gotten used to finely cut meet in various sauces while she was in Korea and has been eating that kind of food ever since. So I asked if she liked Asian food in general, and she said absolutely.
There's an Asian supermarket near my place that has a food court serving a variety of authentic Asian foods - Thai, Vietnamese, Indian, Chinese, Korean, etc. So I brought her there. We sat in the court, ate, and talked. I held her a little, but not much. I was definitely getting the impression she wasn't a fan of PDA. At least when sober.
After this I brought her to my place. I showed her around until she found my cat, who she loooooooved. And so he loved her too. She noticed my N64. I asked her what she played. She said Super Smash Bros. I popped it in and we played a round against the computer. We won.
After vanquishing our foes she wrapped her arm around me. I grabbed her torso and pulled her in for a kiss. What followed was a steamy makeout session. My shirt came off, but that was as far as it went. When things calmed down we cuddled. She nestled into my chest. We started to open up then. She told me about an injury on her arm, which was now irritating her. Apparently a car accident had caused her some substantial nerve damage in her arm, and it occasionally feels very hot, and she can't squeeze her hand very well. I was impressed she was able to play Nintendo under those conditions.
She needs a special brace to keep herself from sleeping on her arm, or else she literally cannot use it. So I offered to drive her home. She said that I could just drop her at a T stop if it's more convenient. I replied that I've been enjoying spending time with her and would like to have the half hour more in the car. She agreed. I pulled over by her place and we went inside. We hugged and kissed. She doesn't get along with one of her roommates, so she said I couldn't stay over - that would give her roommate something to use against her. That seems like a complicated situation.
After my date yesterday, which I'll discuss in a moment, I got a text from Erin. "Hey-it was cool to see you again last night and eat some good asian food even though it rained (you know it did). [this was an ongoing joke between us]. I am free most of this weekend if you want to hang out again. Me: "Yes I'd like that a lot. Like I said king richard's faire saturday if you're free going with a bunch of people. And I'm free evenings too so yes lets hang out lots." Later text - "Fri night dinner and drag show game?" So far no reply.
I haven't been active on okcupid, but girls keep messaging me on it anyway. One girl did so shortly after the soup incident with Janet. I told her I wasn't open to dating but we could be friends. We met up for my mall date at the Pru. She picked out outfits for me and did a DAMN good job. I was impressed. I did the same for her - my first time doing so. I picked out good outfits, but she wasn't entirely honest about her dress size. This is something I need to remember for the future, and why this might be a bad idea to do in reverse. She looked hot in the outfits I picked out for her, even though they didn't fit perfectly.
She works as some sort of social justice activist. I didn't fully understand the nature of the job. She was very honest and up front about her attraction to me and how much she was enjoying the date. That was pretty awesome. We grabbed some lunch at the Pru food court, but then we both had to run. We walked outside, I kissed her, and said we should get together sometime that week.
I texted her the next day to set up a date, but she said she wasn't free all week after all, but definitely wants to get back together. During the weekend we set up a date for Tuesday after her scheduled haircut.
Her haircut got canceled, so she offered to take the T all the way to Brighton to meet me. I accepted. She wound up getting a little off course and had to walk a ways to meet up. But she made it. We hugged. I'd intended on taking her to a ballroom dance class nearby, but it was clear she intended on avoiding that, being somewhat uncoordinated. She instead suggested we go to a tapas place she loved when she lived in my neighborhood.
The dinner was great. We got a $10 pitcher of sangria. I was quite tipsy by the end. She was slightly tipsy. Or maybe not.
We walked back to my place. I introduced her to my cat, and I showed her a youtube video of a girl who she reminded me of. We cuddled on my bed for a bit. Suddenly we had the following conversation:
Her: "Ok, I need to say this, I think we should just be friends."
Me: "Alright, I'm a little surprised though."
Me: "Well I was getting the impression you like me a lot."
Her: "I do. I'm extremely attracted to you. You're very handsome."
Me: "Oh, well, thank you, so you don't like my personality?"
Her: "No, I love your personality. It's one of your best features actually. I've been having a lot of fun with you."
Me: "I'm a little confused then."
Her: "I am too. I like you a lot, but I'm just getting a friend feeling from you. And I get you're disappointed, I am too."
Me: "Well, alright. Feelings are feelings and that's fine. I have to say I've never had someone tell me they're so attracted to me and love hanging out with me and then reject me though."
Her: "Well, you do move pretty fast. Like you're very physical."
Me: "And you don't like that?"
Her: "No, I do like that. I move very fast too, that's the problem, and I like that you're physical. Most guys aren't physical enough."
Her: "I guess maybe I want to move slowly with the next guy I see. Usually when things get exciting quickly they go downhill quickly too."
Me: "Yeah, I can see that. Well, so you know, I'm not in any hurry. I'm very attracted to you and I wasn't going to hide that, so that's why I've been physical. But if you don't want to date then we don't have to."
Her: "Yeah, I think we should just be friends."
Me: "OK then, but but it's gonna be hard for me not to kiss you."
Her: "Well... we can kiss one more time."
We kissed, and it was a very hot kiss. Then I walked her to my door. We hugged. I said goodbye. She thanked me for being so cool, and said goodbye as well.
I decided I actually do want to be friends with her. We'd talked about doing karaoke sometime, so I texted her about it.
Me: "Hey btw I still want to sing karaoke with you so if you're up for setting that up I'm still game."
Her: "I could be down for that you're a cool guy, thank you."
And that was that.