I've known girls that had a HUGE crush on me, only to walk away when they barely got to know me. It can be really annoying. There's a book that I want to read entitled, "Love must be tough." The author basically recounts the story of how he almost did not marry his wife. When he first met said girl, he was a senior and she a sophomore in college. He figured that he was going to dump her and move one when he graduated. He told her that 2 weeks before graduation...SHE DID NOT WANT TO HEAR IT, but what she said was,
"I agree. I've been wanting to date other guys. I suppose we should break up."
He tried to kiss her, and she told him no. She went upstairs and cried her eyes out for two hours. He went home thinking that he had made a big mistake. So for 2 weeks he tried to get back together with her. She finally agreed.
Notice how there was a BIG lie. If she had told the truth, they would not have gotten married, but because she hid some details, they did.
Here's the flip side. A few years later, he went back to see her graduate. They were still dating. He started noticing that she seemed more distant. She was hanging out with other dudes a lot. What was going on!?
He sat down, and thought for a few hours about what he could do differently. He realized he needed to give her some space. Somehow he needed to tell her that he was going to live his with or without her. And all of a sudden she was into him again.
Reading that excerpt, made me really mad. Dating is NOT intrinsically truthful. In fact, if you are an absolute slob at home, you intentially try NOT to tell the girl that! Anyway, keep trying and good luck!